Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy,
human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns
destructive, it can lead to problems-problems at work, in your
personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And
it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an
unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Anger is a very powerful emotion
that can stem from feelings of frustration, hurt, annoyance, or
disappointment. It is a normal human emotion that can range from
slight irritation to strong rage. Suppressed anger can be an
underlying cause of anxiety and depression. Anger that is not
appropriately expressed can disrupt relationships, affect thinking
and behavior patterns, and create a variety of physical problems.
Chronic (long-term) anger has been linked to health issues such as
high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders, and
digestive problems. In addition, anger can be linked to problems
such as crime, emotional and physical abuse, and other violent
NLP AND ANGER MANAGEMENT
When you start feeling angry, try deep
breathing, positive self-talk, or stopping your angry thoughts.
Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Slowly repeat a calm word or
phrase such as "relax" or "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself
while breathing deeply until the anger subsides.
Although expressing anger is better than
keeping it in, anger should be expressed in an appropriate way.
Frequent outbursts of anger are often counter-productive and
cause problems in relationships with others. Anger outbursts are
also stressful to your nervous and cardiovascular systems and
can make health problems worse. Learning how to use
assertiveness is the healthy way to express your feelings,
needs, and preferences. Being assertive can be used in place of
using anger in these situations.
Seek out the support of others. Talk through
your feelings and try to work on changing your behaviors.
If you have trouble realizing when you are
having angry thoughts, keep a log of when you feel angry.
Try to gain a different perspective by
putting yourself in another's place.
Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor
Practice good listening skills. Listening can
help improve communication and can facilitate trusting feelings
between people. This trust can help you deal with potentially
Learn to assert yourself, expressing your
feelings calmly and directly without becoming defensive,
hostile, or emotionally charged. Consult self-help books on
assertiveness or seek help from a professional therapist to
learn how to use assertiveness and anger management skills.